If, like me, you have been dealing with the menopause for absolutely ages (as my memory has been melted by the hot flushes, I am having to guess that I am now entering my 5th year) you might be wondering whether this mid-life cloud has a silver lining. My initial answer would be, ‘does it bollox’ but let’s see.
I turned to my Personal Assistant, Google, and asked the question.
First up is Web MD and a cheerful obs-gyny doctor from Maine who suggests that,
“The truth is that women over 50 are just hitting their stride,” she writes in the introduction of her new book, The Secret Pleasures of Menopause.
So secret that they are certainly hidden from me. She goes on to say,
“You can turn yourself on. You can rewire your brain and your body to feel more pleasure. The brain is the biggest sex organ in the body.”
I must say there are plenty of listings on Google for what can improve the menopause (yoga, exercise, nitric oxide, acupuncture, hops, and a neck-cooler to mention a few) but not so many for the upside. I do eventually find some joker who says this,
“Menopause is a gift, a lantern lighting the way to significant transformation in all areas of your life………. menopause is not the wicked witch. She does not drain women of any vital function nor turn them old, weak, crotchety, or unattractive with a wave of her wand”.
As youngsters (for whom their 50s is light years away) might say: ~ LOL
There is some information out there which I do agree with: Yes, it is natural. Yes, it (eventually) means no more periods and contraception. But is it a stage during which, as this cheerful woman suggest,
“…. the door opens to receive the wisdom of our lineage”?
That may be a step too far, even for the most optimistic of us. I’m not sure I even know what it means.
My only hope is that it is nearing the end. I can’t say my symptoms (brain atrophy, hot flushes, poor sleep are the highlights) have left me feeling particularly cheery.
Menopausal rant over ~ I feel a lot better already and I haven’t even got my neck-cooler out.
Annie Bee x